It is the height of hubris to grant forgiveness to someone who hasn’t the conviction of wronging you.  Unless the apology is offered, and the wrong admitted, public “forgiveness” simply is one more way to finger point and to put oneself above blame.  It is better to forgive the unrepentant in your heart, and to yourself, to heal any wounds caused by resentment and bitterness over crimes committed.  It is difficult to forgive when there has been no apology afforded.  It is nearly impossible to accept forgiveness when you find little or no wrongdoing in your actions. 

                Better then to search your soul and find anything you have done to harm another, and offer up the heartfelt apology.  Admitting where you have done wrong, and vowing to never repeat the offence.  How much more damage would be healed if we were to admit when we have done wrong?  How much better would the world be if we could privately forgive and publicly apologize?  Remove all finger pointing that points to someone other than yourself.  Cast all blame aside.  Apologize for any harm, admit that you are imperfect, and cast aside all condemnation and accusation.